No PooNannie For Deadbeats

That's Messed Up!

That’s Messed Up!

You’ve got to become more discriminate about who gets access to your goods. STOP REWARDING DEADBEATS!

A man who does not support his kids has already shown you who he is.

A woman once made the argument in a salon-type setting, “If you’ve got a half decent man you should be happy.” Astonished by women’s agreement I replied, “Not unless you’re only half decent!” **crickets**

Here’s the really unfortunate part: deadbeats continue to have babies because women support them – THE DEADBEATS!

“You don’t get what you deserve you get what you accept!”

-Grown Zone

A woman who allows an only half decent man (and for many of them “half decent” is a compliment) access to her heart, home, money and/or PooNannie does not properly value herself. It’s a ugly cycle that women – the birthers and nurturers – can and must break. Ladies, Your PooNannie is YOUR responsibility!

Any man who doesn’t support his children will not take care of yours…that includes the ones you would have for him. YOU ARE NOT THE EXCEPTION! In fact, if you valued yourself properly, a man who doesn’t support his children shouldn’t get a seat at your table – CERTAINLY NOT A KEY TO YOUR POONANNIE!

If you don’t have a criteria for who gains entry, start with this!



It’s time to #RaiseTheBar ladies for yourselves and who you choose as your mates for the sake of your children and our future. It’s time to #LiveInTheGrownZone! Ladies, if you want better from a man then you must change your qualifiers.

I think the Grown Zone might just have to add #NoPooNannieForDeadbeats to our “movement” efforts! 😉

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Perverted Pulpit PooNannie Pushing Pimps

Effin’ Pulpit PooNannie Pushing Phoolery is what this is! This “man of the cloth” may as well get on the street and get him some whores!

The headline reads:  “Amen to that! Pastor puts stripper’s pole next to pulpit and urges congregation to have sex seven days a week”

Halfway through, I had to take a breather. It’s this kind of Pulpit PooNannie Pushing Phoolery that keeps women secondary in relationships…not AS important because this FOOL whom others are validating (by showing up) as a “man of the cloth” is equating intimacy and sex and to help make his point, he brings a pink stripper’s pole and other salacious props to the pulpit. He further insults the female intelligence (well, the thinking ones) by suggesting that a man satisfies our “cravings – (with) wine, rose petals and flowers” (you better raise the bar…if that’s all he had to do to hit it, you do need some critical thinking skills). What he’s showing is what’s worked for him, and he’s clearly not met a grown woman, or lack the capacity to recognize her.

Pastor's Pulpit Pink Pole PooNannie Phoolery!

Anybody decent has a natural desire to please, at least those closest to them. For a woman, her God and her man top that list. And if Christianity is her chosen philosophy to be governed by, the difference is sometimes blurred as she seeks to be “obedient” to him and his needs!

7-days of sex is all about the man’s satisfaction because if it were about hers, they wouldn’t need “the good pastor” to instruct them to have more – they already would be. The best relationships include sex, but are not BASED on sex and certainly not the quantity of sex. Intimacy and intercourse are not synonymous! This kind of religious blackmail gets my goat!

Ladies: NEXT Decision BETTER™ because it’s women who help to validate a penis-led mentality. If you’re worth more than a screw, stop permitting them to make that your primary value. A man who loves you for you will bend over backwards to make love to your heart and mind to the point that you’re so satisfied that you’ll never withhold sex from him and your relationship will be so multidimensional that sex is not at the forefront of his mind. Yeah,  that’s what I said…there are men who will want to do more with and for you than bend you over backwards when you, RAISE THE BAR! 

Shock value has its place, but the degradation/objectifying of women from the pulpit under the guise of holiness is foul…and you’re vile to do it Mike Scruggs (you won’t get no title out of me)! You’re still a penis-led boy. Grown men know that 7 days of sex won’t heal a marriage and wouldn’t dare compare who’s gettin’ more.

Grow up…Grown IS Sexy!😉

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NEXT Decision BETTER™,
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony