PooNannie Lessons From The Barbershop, Introduction Part 2

I learned early growing up in my daddy’s barbershop that my PooNannie is my responsibility! Girls, you have a responsibility and boys have a responsibility too, but you won’t take the same paths to become responsible adults.

My Daddy conditioned me to not be a boy/man’s play thing; to love me more than a I loved a boy/man. We all have different paths…none are any better than the other, they are all just different. But our experiences have a lot to do with who we are, including the decisions we make as it relates to sex. This video describes the foundation of my journey and can help you to start sorting what needs REconditioning in your life, for the rest of your journey.

As I said in Part I, I am not in any way saying that my father’s “way” is the only way, but I am saying that as a parent, you need to figure out how to communicate this message across to your children!

Here we grow…Grown IS Sexy! ;-)

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PooNannie Lessons From The Barbershop, Introduction Part 1

I learned early growing up in my daddy’s barbershop that my PooNannie is my responsibility!

Everybody gets to choose what kind of parent they will be and we each have lived unique experiences because of our parent’s choices…none are any better than the other, they are all just different. But our experiences have a lot to do with who we are, including the decisions we make as it relates to sex. This video describes the foundation of my journey.

Now, I am not in any way saying that my father’s “way” is the only way, but I am saying that as a parent, you need to figure out how to communicate this message across to your children!

Here we grow…Grown IS Sexy! ;-)

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Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

PooNannie Power: Misused and Abused

There’s power in the PooNannie – the most misused power there is; triggering numerous societal issues from infidelities and Baby-Momma dramas to tumultuous psychological life-time ripple effects.

I have a page on Facebook called “Grown Zone!” that I post to daily. On Fridays I tend to share what I call PooNannie Posts, which includes PooNannie Power, PooNannie Responsibility and PooNannie Phoolery.

The moment of decision: Fun? Or Phoolery?

I do this on Fridays because it’s on the weekend when perfectly intelligent women trade their brains for a box of rocks and get laid–only they’ve convinced themselves that it’s on their terms, that they are in charge, so it’s okay. Friday is why folks live for the weekend, because they just got paid and they have a few dollars to pay for some fun. Friday is when penis-led males go out in search of somebody’s vulnerable daughter to exploit and objectify.

PooNannie Phoolery is happening all around us, but sexual recklessness is never without consequence and rarely does it only affect the people screwin’.

So, yeah it’s Friday and you should enjoy the weekend, but in the words of Sam Green, Sr. (aka My Daddy), “A man will tell you anything if he thinks you’ll let him hit it, and any hole will do as long as it’s wet and warm.”

Sure a man is AS responsible for PooNannie Phoolery as you are, but woman, YOU determine whether or not he hits it, and the ripple effects (babies, diseases, financial obligations, lives affected, emotional damages), fall on you. He’s then off to get somebody else’s daughter to fall for his okey-doke.

Enjoy the weekend, but make smart decisions. There’s a whole lot more to do, other than screw.

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Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

It Is Not Just Plagiarism It’s My Life

Absolute Disbelief
This TRICK set up a Facebook page that mirrored mine. No really, she copied and pasted my posts as her original material, stole my blog posts and turned them into “notes” tagging friends and celebrities, and even hinted that soon there will be a book, “Pocketbook Principles” from my “PooNannie Principles,” lessons from my Daddy.

Here are a couple of examples how she modified my posts:
On this one she removed “-Sam Green, Sr. aka My Daddy” entirely. No credit to him, at all for his quotes.

This was a post with comments on the Grown IS Sexy! page that she turned into a note, tagging people.

She’s copied some of my blogs too, including my Divorce Is Not An Option blog and creating a note.

As I scrolled her page, my “NEXT Decision BETTER” became her “Next and Better Decision”. My Daddy’s quotes, “Sam Green, Sr.” became just “S G, Sr.” and my “Lessons from the Barbershop” became her “Lessons from the Shop”. My “We’re Growin’ UP” became her “We’re Goin’ Up” and my “Grown IS Sexy” became her “Grown and Sassy”. She made these changes but EVERYTHING ELSE remained as I originally posted them.

Here are some examples of how she’s done that:

Here are some single posts dating back to May 2010 that she copied and pasted:

There are SO MANY of my single posts that she turned to notes.

I created the Grown IS Sexy! “fan” page on Facebook and everyday for the past 2 years I post and engage discussions on self development for self leadership integrating many terms I’ve created from seminars and workshops over the years that have taken on a life of their own. And I freely share my experiences and life lessons.

Flattered My Ass, I Am PISSED!

Me and Daddy

Some of you know the relationship that I have with my father.  At 44, I am still Daddy’s little girl.  Along with many other things, my father taught me everything I needed to know about sex much of which I learned growing up in his barbershop.  I hold those lessons very near and dear.  So, for this TRICK to claim my experiences as her own, even my Daddy as hers, PISSES me off!

I am not flattered that she wants to be me or that she is claiming my work.  My daily interaction with those on my fan page is, kind of, my ministry.  I love sharing digestible nuggets that help others “Courage UP” and make better decisions. And we have some powerful discussions on the Grown IS Sexy! page and now, frankly, I feel violated.
She has gone as far as extracting from the comment sections where I’ve clarified a post all the more or responded to people’s personal experiences to extract each of my comments and create “notes” on her Facebook “fan” page, which are the equivalent to a blog – all my words, verbatim.

I have myself on Google Alert (which I highly recommend), so whenever anybody posts, mention or repost my work I get an automatic alert and I periodically Google my terms. I started using “Sam Green-ism” and so I Googled it and found that she had been copying and pasting my work for over a year. I went back to July 2010 and was exhausted so I stopped.

We’re All Born With Talent

You've Got Talent

Well, not exactly! We are all born with natural propensities – a natural lean toward certain abilities.  And it is every individual’s task to identify what those are (the easy part because they show up even if you’re not looking for them) and then to hone those skills which unveil our talents. It is then our job to develop those talents over time.

I’m very passionate about individuality, and so clear about the different traits and experiences that make us all different and valuable that I teach it; I’ve produced two audio books about it, Living in Harmony and Living by Design.  If this thief would spend her time honing her own natural abilities, she’d find the wealth of value within her and would feel absolutely foolish stealing my work.

There Are No Shortcuts
Those of us who have known levels of success know that the path to success is not a straight line and there are no shortcuts!

I was a traveling speaker and trainer, literally in a different city every day teaching professional development – communications, interpersonal, and leadership skills.  I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and since age 17, I’ve been fascinated with temperaments, so in every session I’ve ever taught I teach temperaments; show people their individual value. It was all on the road when I realized that I loved teaching personal growth; seeing people have light bulb moments.

Bottom Line: my path, my experiences, my natural abilities and honed talents make me the expert on the things that I teach, including PooNannie responsibility.

While I am pissed that she would try to claim my work as her own, even hinting at a book of MY “PooNannie Principles” only she’s calling it “Pocketbook Principles” she is not me.

Speaking of no shortcuts…HELL, do you know how long it took me to put “PooNannie” in writing?!?!

I’ve been known for talking about the “PooNannie” in sessions for years, but I was so afraid of being known as “The PooNannie Lady.”  People have been asking for my book, but I had to get comfortable with my ability to tastefully convey the messages AND, frankly, to be known as The PooNannie Lady before I would share them in such public forums.

The book is coming. I’ve been working on it and I’m not rushing it because of this. It’s my path, my experiences – it’s MY LIFE! I’m clear that nobody can tell, nor share my life better than I can. Nobody can steal that!

FYI…I have reported the page to Facebook but haven’t heard from them yet, but get this…just before posting this, another Facebook page surfaced with my posts called: Life After Separation and Divorce. From what I can tell it’s the same TRICK (it’s the nicest thing I can call her right now)!

There are literally more posts on her page that are mine than are not! I scrolled her page in absolute disbelief! She continues to delete my supporters comments but my content remains. You can see the page here.

Here’s to finding the wealth of value within you and developing the best, YOU! We’re Growin’ UP…Grown IS Sexy! 😉

UPDATE (October 21, 2010): Since I posted this blog, I’ve learned who she is and reached out to her. Many of my supporters after hearing about this covered her page, comment after comment, about infringing on my intellectual property. She’s so insistent on continuing that she is diligently removing all of their comments but not my content. Neither has she responded to me.

UPDATE: (October 22, 2010) Like many of you I’ve worked on my brand for years and this just does not sit well with me. As of yet, Facebook still hasn’t responded to my submission but we have self-policed and got her attention. But it doesn’t mean she’s repentant; she’s changed her settings so that we can no longer leave comments and as a result all of  our comments were automatically removed, but my content still remains.

From what I have gathered about her, she has several businesses…a hustler! All I know is that publishing MY CONTENT had better not be one of them. Again, many many thanks to those of you who have rallied with me on this.

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Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

Sexually Uninhibited Or Just Loose

“SuperHead”, Really?!

I heard a young woman recently say that she lost her virginity before she had her first kiss.  That is just mind-boggling to me.  She went on to say that she’d had multiple sexual partners in an attempt to improve her sexual skills.

Now if prostitution is a career path and she’s living in Nevada where it’s perfectly legal, and it’s the family business, I totally understand that, otherwise, somebody failed her miserably and/or she’s going down a path that may be financially profitable but at what cost?

Every Tom, Dick and Harry ain’t supposed to know how you moan, Baby; that list ought to be very short. Your reputation depends on it.”  –Sam Green, Sr. aka My Daddy

By now, most of you know that I grew up in my Daddy’s barber shop and beauty salon and that he did not censor any conversations for my sake. In fact, he knew that allowing me to get the uncensored versions of how differently men and women thought about and used sex would be to my immediate and ultimate benefit.

This post is not to condemn any person because all any of us can do is that which we know.  But as with every PooNannie Post, it is to spark conversation about behaviors because to be sexually uninhibited is a good thing when in healthy context, but to be “loose” is just irresponsible.

Sexual Guidance is Good Parenting

Our society is moving so fast and parents are so busy running the rat race while sexuality expands, evolves and/or unveils that we are all still trying to figure out where we are sexually, and too many parents, therefore provide little, if any, guidance for our children.  And when left to their own devices, they make it up as they go and their experiences become their truth.  And being the humans we are, when we reinforce our” truth(s)” through conditioning, how we are conditioned becomes our reality.

Let’s face it, sex has never been an easy subject for most adults, even today in our very actively sexual society, parents are still not talking with their children about what it means to be sexually responsible. Mostly, because they themselves have not been, or worse, still are not.

PooNannie: the delicacy between a woman’s legs

(according to the Urban Dictionary)

Delicacy or Stankin’ Tuna?

No, this is not just about loose girls and loose women, we all know that boys and men are as sexually irresponsible, but they can’t do it without you women (you know the exceptions, but I’m not going there in this post)!

Smarter Than Your Private Parts

WOMAN: You are the gatekeepers and you have to get smarter about how you’re using that tool between your legs. Too many of you, especially you “I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T women”, are just doling it out freely, uninterrupted and uninhibited – proving that intellect does not equal smart.

She’s educated! A professional – handling her business and climbing the success ladder all week long, but when dealing with men she trades in her brilliant brain for a box of rocks!

A smart woman wouldn’t dilute the overall value of a delicacy by turning hers into a stankin’ tuna!

“Reputations can be improved, but never removed. You can recover from being a ‘bitch’, but some labels are irreparable…you don’t ever want to be known as the neighborhood ho”.  –Sam Green, Sr. aka My Daddy

The PooNannie is a delicacy. Treat H.E.R. as such – with Honor, Esteem and Respect.

When you do here’s what you’ll find: you’ll attract men who will treat you the same way – with Honor, Esteem and Respect…and you will have deserved it. We tend to get what we accept, not what we deserve. 😉

Enter the Grown Zone…Grown IS Sexy! 😉

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All the best,
Zara
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Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

What is Your Worth?

Many would say that a person is worthy because he/she is; just being makes one worthy.

I will dare offer this position…isn’t it the individual who determines his/her own worth?

What is worth?

Irrespective of financial wealth, worth is value, meaning, significance, goodness, importance, usefulness; it’s a quality that renders something desirable, deserving of or merited. This is, solely, YOUR responsibility.  How others treat you does and will depend on what you bring; the difference you make; what distinguishes you from the pack – and LADIES: PLEASE REMOVE POONANNIE PUSHING AND TRICKS FROM THIS EQUATION BECAUSE THE ONLY THING YOU’LL GET IS SCREWED.

Who are you?

While I agree that every person is entitled to “worthiness”, it is the individual who decides, determines and does the mental and emotional work to be worthy. What you’ve done doesn’t determine your worth…who you are, determines your worth – that is what’s consistent and will prevail.

H.E.R.

Parents and others can and should set the course for worthiness, but qualities that command honor, esteem and respect exude from the individual who knows their own worth.  While no person is any better than another, may I propose that a person’s worth is what he/she believes it is? And it’s evidenced by the Honor, Esteem and Respect they get.

Ladies, who desire H.E.R.

Consider how you treat the PooNannie because it is how most men will treat you.  Honor, Esteem, and Respect must begin with you: If you don’t H.E.R., her don’t expect him to H.E.R., you.

Strooooooooong Medicine, I know but it’s good for ya – now swallow it! We’re Growin’ Up! Grown IS Sexy! 😉

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If Men are Dogs, It’s Women’s Fault

My Draughs?!

Check out the “Mature Minute” video below and tell me what you think.

If you are a “Julie”, do you really expect a man to treat your PooNannie in any way other than you do?

Women, men follow your lead. When you learn how to treat H.E.R. with Honor, Esteem and Respect, you’ll attract a man who wants you for more than your PooNannie. Of course, you’ve got to have more to give.

Kick ‘n Scream if you must, but We’re Growin’ UP Y’all…Grown IS Sexy! ;)

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