It’s Healthy To Challenge Your Beliefs

Religion can be a BEAST; it saves and imprisons. Beliefs are purposeful but they are not intended to remain the same. If your beliefs aren’t changing/evolving, you’re not growing.

Prays Well With OthersIf you’re still stuck on the spiritual beliefs of your parents we challenge you to intentionally learn something new. Challenge your beliefs.

If you believe that your religion is the only way, we challenge you to intentionally learn something new. Challenge your beliefs.

If conversations about what others believe make you uncomfortable, we challenge you to intentionally learn something new. Challenge your beliefs.

If you believe that there’s a hell, an opposing force or that you are somehow favored by “The Creator”, we challenge you to intentionally learn something new. Challenge your beliefs.

We’ve learned to not only embrace, but to appreciate it when our beliefs are challenged. It’s how we grow.  We believe that it is AS important to UNlearn something everyday as it is to learn something new.  

If you are unwilling to challenge your beliefs then by default you’re resistant to change, and without change you can not grow. If you’re not growing it’s impossible to have a healthy mindset as life delivers it’s unavoidable challenges.

If you can’t look over the course of your life at the things you’ve thought, believed and done and see a damn fool, you’re still one! And if you think you have all the answers you need for the challenges ahead of you and that you don’t need to learn anything new you’re affirmatively, a damn fool! But there’s hope, even for you. Enter and LIVE in the Grown Zone!

Here we GROW…Grown IS Sexy! ;-)

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Jet Magazine Joins The Grown Zone

Senior Editor Marcia Talbert to be featured speaker at Grown Zone Self Love and Healthy Relationships Retreat, Nov. 22-24, in Chicago

Jet magazine (JetMag.com), America’s No. 1 African American newsweekly, with more 7 million readers, has agreed to a media partnership in support of the Grown Zone Self Love and Healthy Relationships Retreat, set to take place November 22-24, 2013 in Chicago at the Welcome Inn Manor, a sumptuous bed-and-breakfast venue.The Grown Zone Retreat is a production of A2Z Personal Growth Enterprises, owned by Zara Green and Alfred Edmond Jr., best known for their Grown Zone multimedia personal growth initiative focused on moving beyond adult rights to healthy “grown” decision-making.

The Grown Zone Retreat weekend will consist of seminars led by Green and Edmond, who will show attendees how to lay the foundation for healthy relationships and to recognize unhealthy behaviors detrimental to such relationships, while providing a reliable framework for making better relationship decisions, rooted in principles of self-love.

Jet Senior Editor Marcia Wade Talbert will be a featured speaker at the Grown Zone Retreat in Chicago, Nov. 22-24.

Jet Senior Editor Marcia Wade Talbert will be a featured speaker at the Grown Zone Retreat in Chicago, Nov. 22-24.

As part of Jet’s media partnership, the newsweekly’s Senior Editor Marcia Wade Talbert will be a special guest speaker at the Friday evening reception to kick off the retreat. In addition, the Grown Zone will contribute blog posts on healthy relationships to JetMag.com, beginning during the week leading into the Retreat Weekend.

The reception will be hosted by Cameka Smith, founder of The Boss Network, an extensive network of successful career professionals and entrepreneurs. A screening of the film Still Standing: In Spite Of It All, Our Marriage Still Stands, produced by Tyler New Media, will also take place during the reception. The DVD of the film will also be available for sale during the retreat weekend.

For more more information and to register for the Grown Zone Self Love and Healthy Relationship Retreat, go to gzchicago.eventbrite.com. Also, for additional updates via social media, check the hash tag #GZRetreat on Twitter, Instagram and other platforms.

PERSONAL GROWTH SPECIALISTS ZARA GREEN AND ALFRED EDMOND JR. TO HOST GROWN ZONE WEEKEND RETREAT NOV. 22-24 IN CHICAGO

Alfred & Zara

Alfred & Zara

Personal growth specialists and social-media power couple Zara Green and Alfred Edmond Jr. will be in Chicago to host the Grown Zone Self Love and Healthy Relationships Retreat, November 22-24, 2013, at the Welcome Inn Manor, a sumptuous urban bed-and breakfast inn. The weekend retreat will provide in-depth teaching and interactive guidance, in a relaxed and intimate setting, to those seeking a framework to recognize, prepare for, attract and maintain healthy relationships, romantic and otherwise.

The Grown Zone Self Love and Healthy Relationships Retreat kicks off on the evening

Cameka Smith, BOSS Network

Cameka Smith, BOSS Network

of Friday, November 22, with a reception/mixer hosted by Chicagoan Cameka Smith, founder of The BOSS Network. A full day of seminars and workshops led by Green and Edmond will begin on Saturday, November 23, including “Self-Love: The Foundation of ALL Healthy Relationships,” “Making Better Decisions” and “What A Healthy Relationship Looks Like.” The retreat will conclude with a wrap-up session, including open discussion and Q&A, on Sunday, November 24. Registration, which is limited to 45 participants, includes a Friday evening reception/mixer; breakfast, lunch and evening cocktails on Saturday; and a Sunday brunch. For more information about the retreat and other Grown Zone offerings, go to www.GrownZoneA2Z.com. Register for the Grown Zone Self Love and Healthy Relationships Retreat at www.gzchicago.eventbrite.com/.

Welcome Inn Manor

Welcome Inn Manor

The Welcome Inn Manor (www.WelcomeInnManor.com), the host venue for the Grown Zone Retreat, is located at 4563 S. Michigan Avenue in Chicago and co-owned by husband and wife Mell and Angie Monroe. Located in the Lakeshore South neighborhood, the Welcome Inn Manor is about a 1 mile walking distance to Lakeshore Drive and a few blocks to several El train stops. Street parking is free and garage parking is available.  A Queen Anne historic home built in 1893, with cozy and uniquely appointed rooms, themed in tribute to the likes of Nat “King” Cole, the Welcome Inn Manor is an ideal location for an intimate and luxurious weekend getaway. Named a 2012 Top Vacation Rental in Chicago by TripAdvisor’s FlipKey online reservation site, the Welcome Inn Manor also enjoys a top TripAdvisor Traveler Rating, based on traveler reviews. Those registered for the Grown Zone retreat can secure special room rates at the Welcome Inn Manor by calling 312-493-2953 or e-mailing to mell@welcomeinnmanor.com with the promo code: Grown Zone.

Life and business partners Green and Edmond are co-principals of A2Z Personal Growth Enterprises, a media company focused on the creation and delivery of personal development products, communications, content and events. The company is best known for the Grown Zone, the mission of which is to teach the difference between adult choices—what people have the right to do—and “grown” decisions—those choices that honor the Grown Zone principles of “Self Love, Better Decisions and Healthier Relationships.”

“The Grown Zone is our response to repeated requests from our social medGrown Zone, Header croppedia friends and followers, particularly over the past year, to share our principles of self-love, better decisions and healthy relationships in order to achieve a happier life,” says Edmond. “As much as we both love social media, live events allows us to do this in a deeper and more engaging and personal way than we can on Twitter or Facebook. So we were thrilled when we were invited to bring the Grown Zone to Chicago.”

“Our goal is the same whether live, social media or traditional media,” Green adds. “We are both excited by and committed to the mission of helping people make better decisions that lead to better outcomes for their lives and relationships. We want to help people learn to distinguish, embrace, accept and respect their individual differences, and to require the same of others. By accepting self and others for who we are, and taking responsibility for our choices and outcomes, we can achieve our true, common purpose in life: to love and grow.”

Green and Edmond are recognized, especially on Twitter and Facebook, among social media’s most popular and respected power couples, known for their unique combination of “heat and light” and “cool refreshment.” They are host and co-host, respectively, of the weekly Grown Zone on BlogTalkRadio, every Saturday at 12:00 noon EST. Green and Edmond also host a Grown Zone Live discussion series in New York City, and have garnered the attention of other media, including the Tom Joyner Morning Show, which featured the Grown Zone “Love and Money” series during Financial Literacy Month in April 2013.

Green is an author, speaker, trainer and former broadcast journalist specializing in personal growth, resiliency development and individuality advocacy. She is best known for helping others to understanding individual temperaments as a key factor of healthy, productive life management, in order to empower them to make their Next Decision Better™.

She is also known for her popular Grown Is Sexy™ and PooNannie Principles™ content and products, which focus on teaching healthy relationship choices founded on love of self, respect of others, and taking personal responsibility for securing both. For women in particular, Green has garnered a passionate and local following for her teachings on helping women to proactively make H.E.R. ™—Honor, Esteem and Respect—a non-negotiable priority in order to secure happy and fulfilled lives.

Edmond, best known as an award-winning journalist, editor and media executive with Black Enterprise and host of the nationally syndicated radio feature Money Matters for American Urban Radio Networks, is a widely recognized expert on personal finance, entrepreneurship, mentorship, leadership development and the practical application of faith in daily living.

A highly sought-after public speaker, Edmond is also known for his A Grown Man Knows™ content on the values and behaviors of responsible, life-affirming manhood. Well known for his sense of personal style, Edmond is also co-designer of a signature line of bow ties, the Alfred Edmond Jr. Collection, in partnership with Nashville, Tenn.-based Windsor Neckwear.

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Possession Consciousness Is Dangerous With Things And People

Are you setting yourself up for unnecessary heartbreak? Or allowing others to position you for unnecessary drama?

Possession consciousness starts out quite innocently…

“My Clothes – My Shoes – My Jewelry – My House  – My Car”

But then there’s this level of possessiveness…

“My Father – My Mother

My Son – My Daughter

My Man – My Woman”

UH-OH! People Possession! (More on that a little later…)

Geore Carlin QuoteFor the most part, all material possessions lose their value. A big part of our society’s barometer for success is how much one has, so people place value on stuff.  It’s why many people get up every day: To work harder so they can get more stuff.  Nothing is wrong with having stuff, but if the stuff has you, it’s a setup. The reasons behind heart ties (emotional attachment) to stuff are multiple, and they create so much drama for people in their quest to satisfy internal desires with external stuff. It’s dangerous!

People stay in unhealthy relationships because they don’t want to lose material possessions or pay money to get out of them, even when divorce is the healthiest option for all involved.

People buy more house than they can afford to furnish, more car than they can afford to maintain and rack up credit card bills trying to impress people they don’t even like. And when they lose any of these things they lose their minds!

I’ve been divorced twice; in one case leaving everything and certainly ending up financially worse off. But nothing I loss compared to the peace I gained. And although the processes were painful, both divorces were exactly what I needed to do. Since them, I’ve grown so far past either of those experiences that upon reflection, they are mere moments in time.

Then just when it seemed life was back on track, I loss it all again to Hurricane Katrina. It took everything except the three days of clothes I brought with me (3 shirts, 3 pairs of shorts, 3 pairs of panties, 2 bras, the earrings I was wearing, and a pair of flip-flops) and a CyberSonic toothbrush.

The event itself was devastating in many ways, but unlike many, because I had a healthy relationship with (not an unhealthy attachment to) things, my resilience kicked in. For a half a second I thought about all the new stuff I’d just bought to go in my new place and the lovely wardrobe I’d built, but then I shook it off!

While it took a while to build another wardrobe and acquire more things, I’m in no way attached to stuff and there is nothing that I cannot part with.

That’s a healthy relationship with stuff. In so many ways, I’m grateful for those experiences of loss.

People Possession

THIS is NOT Okay!

THIS is NOT Okay!

Healthy emotional ties to people are never wrong, but here’s an uncomfortable reality: most relationships are not healthy ; we’re all tied to people, and it’s each of our responsibility to govern our relationships. “Healthy” is available, but the only way to achieve it is to fully understand and apply the idea that we relate to people, we do not possess people.

Human development teaches us that relationships change, yet it’s human nature to want relationships to stay the same, and that’s why personal development should never stop. You should expect every relationship to change because every person, regardless of your relationship to them, is on their own individual journey. The reasons that we are here are to learn and to grow. You can’t grow if you are somebody’s possession because you’re only allowed to do, be and have what they want for themselves, and that’s not love.

Too many people misinterpret possessiveness for love. If s/he is controlling your every move: who you communicate with, what you wear (clothes, makeup), what you do, how you act – they are attentive, but do not mistake that for love.

Love allows. Allows you to be without requiring their permission. Allows you to grow and develop into more of yourself. Allows you to learn more so you can do and  be more. Love considers, cooperates and collaborates. It does not disrespect or demand, nor does it dictate.

Healthy Relationships Matter

Stuff is just stuff – we get it, we give it away, we lose it, we get some more.  The sooner you see stuff as temporary and practical the less you’ll allow it to stop you from making decisions you ought, healthy decisions that lead you to becoming more of yourself and the best of yourself.

People, not stuff are of true, lasting value!

To truly love is to be clear that we’re all playing roles in each others’ lives and few of those roles will last a lifetime. So play your role as long as it’s healthy, with a willingness to move on or let go – appreciating the opportunities to have known and learned from each person, and grateful to have contributed to their lives. Roles are usually for a reason or a season, rarely a lifetime.

Things and people are for our enjoyment, but it’s imperative to keep this at the forefront of how you live in order to build healthy emotional ties:  No thing and no body is yours!

That’s living in the Grown Zone! Here we GROW…Grown IS Sexy! ;-)

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Have You Been A Doormat? Here’s How You Courage Up

I’ve been known to call people “punks” because they won’t stand up for themselves. Punks are like screaming doormats. When you lay down and let others walk on you it’s supposed to hurt!

In the Grown Zone, before anything, we’re about self love.  People who love themselves don’t allow others to treat them with disrespect. You teach people how to treat you. Before you demonstrate love for anybody demonstrate it for yourself. That’s one way to always know that you will not be disrespected more than once.

When others try to Bogart you in any way or you give into pressures from others more than once on the same issue, don’t blame them! The first time you get a pass because you didn’t see it coming. But after that you have to Courage UP in order to stop it!Doormat sign

Find your voice – your truth; that authentic sweet spot:

  • What makes you, you? Know your traits: good bad & ugly like you know your name. Start listing them – refining the good ones, safeguarding the bad and doing your damnedest to control the ugly.
  • Embrace that you’re worthy of respect! When you believe that you are you’ll prove it by protecting your mind, body and spirit with better decision-making.
  • Be willing to teach others how to treat you; what’s acceptable and what is not.

Get off the ground and commit to growth; that’s where peace lives!

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Embrace Time Alone Because Returning To Your Ex Is Like A Dog Returning To Its Vomit

Take My Broken HeartShe/He is your EX for a reason! I’m not a bible-thumper but for these reasons this passage of scripture is so apropo, “As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly“:

  • The act of the dog eating its own vomit is potentially poisonous
  • Foolish acts/behaviors are often out of fear not intentional folly

And if they left you, you’ve got to question why you’d allow them back. “I love him/her” is NOT a sufficient answer. People go back to what they knew, even when it wasn’t good because they don’t know how to be alone and fear it. Time alone is purposeful. If you’re allowing them back then you’ve likely not used the time alone properly.

Time alone is to review the last relationship for patterns in your selections and then to understand WHY you chose them to begin with. Not just what you liked about them, but also what voids in you they filled? When you can answer that you’ve identified YOUR deficits. And when you are aware and FIX THAT IN YOU, you can make your Next Decision Better.

That process won’t usually lead you BACKWARDS!

For your information: The scripture leading into Proverbs 26 says, “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”

And then the verses in Proverbs 26 leading up to the 11th & 12th verses are all about foolish behaviors (“As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly.  Seest thou a man wise in his own conceit? there is more hope of a fool than of him”).

NEXT it's time to move forwardDon’t be a fool! Be wise. Personal growth should never stop! Learn from every relationship. Take time between each one to learn more about you so that you can get better as an individual. Otherwise you run the risk of attracting and choosing the same kind of person, thus the same kinds of experiences and instead of getting better (with your choices and experiences), by default you’ll grow bitter.

You deserve better than that but you won’t get what you deserve necessarily, you’ll get what you choose and accept!

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Fidelity Is A Decision Not Based On Persuasion

Couple at bar.“A real man gives up one-night stands for a woman he can’t stand to spend one night without.”

Saw this in Social Media this morning and every time I see something like it I want to shake the women behind the posts. Women really need to THINK! Put your egos aside (yes, women are ego-driven too) and THINK because women who believe this end up jockeying for men, hurting one another and that’s not okay.

Hear this ladies, meditate on it and don’t ever forget it:

A man not committed to fidelity on general principle will NOT make an exception for you!

Stop believing that there’s something you can do, be or become that can change another person.

Women have given men a pass for being players. I’ll prove it. You accept statements like, “I’ll settle down when I find the right woman.” That’s a load of crap! It’s BULLSHIT! And women accept it. Men are players because women allow them to play. In the Grown Zone, we repeat: You don’t get what you deserve you get what you accept!

A man stops going to smorgasbords because his appetite for “all you can eat” has changed not because one of the dishes at the smorgasbord was so good that it’s all he wants to eat for the rest of his life.

Woman, you may have swaying ability; the ability to sway a man’s attention from another woman. You may be very aware of those powers, but if you were as aware of your worth, you’d never accept a swayable man.

A smart woman knows it’s a misuse of her powers and she knows that a swayable man will soon sway from her too. He’s susceptible to the bait used but not really interested in you.

When you attract a man by swaying or persuading him the pressure is always on you: to keep him satisfied and to keep his attention on you because you’ll forever know that whatever  you did to get him, the next woman who wants him only needs to do it better because you KNOW he’s baitable, thus swayable. What a miserable existence you will have created!

Hear me ladies: In the words of my father, Sam Green Sr, “There’s only one winner when you enter a man’s rotation – HIM – and no man is worth the price you’ll have to pay to compete.”

You can’t build a healthy relationship with somebody whose attention is divided. If you don’t have his undivided attention when you start you won’t gain it as you grow. Don’t you deserve sole focus? Than act like it!

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