The Serenity Challenge Finale`: How to NOT Take Anything Personally, Day 7

Listen Icon, redWhat a journey! I’ve got an offer at the end of this for you!

You know whenever I’m providing training lessons on a subject, I have as many opportunities to practice on that subject as you do.

In my own life when faced with challenges, after I’ve used all of the nuggets I’ve shared with you this past week in order to not take things personally, one of the things I’ve learned to do, is to watch things unfold as if I’m watching a movie.

Don’t get spooky on me, I don’t have out of body experiences (at least not that I know – hee) but after I’ve done what I know to do, accepted responsibility where I need to and am in a space of comfort to accept that “what will be, will be” I am able to detach from outcomes and watch the process; it’s why I always do my best 😉

Here’s a gift to you, from me because no lesson is one size fits all.

Below is a link to the 1st layer of my Do Better System, What is Your Priority?, a 14 minute excerpt from my 1st audiobook, Awareness of Individuality, which will enable you to begin to distinguish your own worth to the point of listing characteristics & qualites…did I mention that it’s FREE?

This FREE excerpt will set you on a path to be able to declare with me “I know, accept, love & respect everything that I am, am not, will be, and will never be – insecurity, inadequacy and inferiority can’t touch me!”

ENJOY!

Link to FREE 14min Excerpt
Thanks for the journey…see ya on the next one!

We’re Growing Up Y’all…because Grown IS Sexy!
NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST 😉

Lovingly,
Zara
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The Serenity Challenge: How to NOT Take Anything Personally – Day 6

 

Make it Count!

Make it Count!

Mental Ascension Means Nothing!
What you know is only as meaningful as the actions you put to it.

 

Studies have proven that what you learn begins to wane immediately and is more likely to stick with you IF YOU DO SOMETHING WITH IT!

It’s why I suggest that you continue this practice even though the 7 day Challenge is almost over.

Remember that serenity is developed – agitation is your default, so if you’ll intentionally work on your serenity, the agitation will begin to fade.

Pay less attention the agitation, and more to practicing serenity…the serene state will, then become more and more a part of you.

Here are some keys to remember while practicing your serenity:

  • Be Kind…regardless of how others treat you
  • What others do is about them, not about you
  • Life is, ALWAYS, just happening, not happening to you
  • You are given a choice with every agitation: the opportunity to be offended or the opportunity to emotionally develop

Learning to control self is THE key to self mastery. Self Mastery is the key to enjoying life, and y’all know that I believe with everything that I am…Life is meant to be enjoyed 🙂

We’re Growing Up Y’all…because Grown IS Sexy!
NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST 😉

Lovingly,
Zara
www.GrownIsSexy.com

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The Serenity Challenge: How to NOT Take Anything Personally, Day 5

It’s my guess you’ve had ample opportunity to get offended since you’ve taken on the Serenity Challenge – I sure have 🙂 Today, just RECAP.

Take this opportunity to review each nugget, Days 1-4, and really marinate on them. Think about the times you may not have known to implement some of these nuggets and begin to envision yourself responding differently in the same situations.

I want to know how you’re doing. Many of you have chimed in, others prefer messaging me – and that’s cool, but let me hear from you.
Share Your Experiences!

We’re Growing Up Y’all…because Grown IS Sexy 😉
NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST

Lovingly,
Zara
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The Serenity Challenge: How NOT to Take Anything Personal – Day 4

ENJOY LIFE!

ENJOY LIFE!

I gave a peak into this Nugget on How to NOT take anything personal in an earlier Facebook post, …

“Transitions are only scary when you don’t trust the process; fix your minds to learn, plan and flow – simultaneously. Enjoy the Ride ;)”

We’re more than half through the 7 Day Challenge so let’s recap:

Day 1: Defined what serenity is and how you get it.

Day 2: Expressed the importance of anchoring your mind and gave practical ways to do it.

Day 3: Explained that it is imperative that you understand the things that make you – YOU!

I want to expound on my earlier post, “Transitions are only scary when you don’t trust the process; fix your minds to learn, plan and flow – simultaneously. Enjoy the Ride ;)”

Nobody lives a challenge-free life. Life’s job is to challenge you and in every challenge you have the opportunity and thus make a choice – to be agitated or to fix your mind to get something out of the process.

Every experience is an opportunity to be scarred or refined; whichever you are in every experience depends on how you treat them when they show up.

Here’s the mindset that will be your surefire way to begin to trust the process during transitions:

1) Fix your mind to expect change, which is the catalyst to transitions

2) Believe that if the Universe is presenting them to you that there are reasons and that you can handle them

3) Decide to become a student and learn through the the process

4) Immediately start planning to overcome while in it

5) Demonstrate that you are embracing change by flowing with it (not resisting)

When you can do this, you’re on your way to trusting the process.

After you’ve done it a few times the easier it becomes and soon you’ll understand that if life is presenting it to you, it’s what you need even when you don’t understand where it’s taking you.

You’ll learn to enjoy the adventurous rides life takes you on and not fear where you’re going.

We’re Growing Up Y’all…because Grown IS Sexy 😉
NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST

Lovingly,
Zara
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The Serenity Challenge: How NOT to Take Anything Personally – Day 3

Understand the things that make you – YOU!

There are different traits, qualities, propensities and experiences…that make you – YOU. There are layers to your existence and it is to your advantage to know them to the point of listing them from temperament to what kind of learner you are to how different environments affect you, and why.

It’s not just possible to know these things about yourself, it’s very tangible.

Taking things personally stem from what I call the 3 hindering “I’s”: Insecurity, Inadequacy & Inferiority and it shows up because a person has not distinguised their own individuality; their own unique design of difference which produces understanding, appreciation, acceptance and respect for self and others who don’t think, feel, act or react as you do.

By default the 3 Hindering “I’s” cause people to compare themselves, try to measure up to others, and to feel less than others.

Invincible Woman!

Invincible Woman!

Here are some of the things that will help you to stop comparing, stop trying to measure up and to stop feeling less than; to stop that “always wanting to do/be what you can not/are not” notion:

  • Know that you are uniquely made and were designed with purpose.
  • Know that most people are just as conflicted about who they are as you sometimes are.
  • Know that you’ll NEVER please everybody ALL of the time, in fact you’ll rarely please ANY.

How you respond to what people do is never about them, it’s always about you.

These are the benefits of focusing on understanding the things that make you – YOU:

  • You can intentionally hone and refine your traits – the good, bad and ugly ones – which every person has 🙂
  • You can be ever-conscious of how you are being perceived so that you can direct desired outcomes
  • You can live more purposefully according to your individual design
  • You can enjoy the ever-changing journey of life with confidence and resilience

It’s a lot easier to allow things to roll off of you like a wet duck if you’re clear about your worth. I’m not offended by what others do, think or say to or about me, because I know, love, accept, and respect everything that I am, am not, will be, and will never be.

We’re Growing Up Y’all…because Grown IS Sexy 😉
NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST

Lovingly,
Zara
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The Serenity Challenge: How NOT to Take Anything Personally – Day 2

Soul Anchor

Soul Anchor

It’s important to anchor your mind.

Part I, explained what serenity is and how you get it. Here are 3 philosophies that I’ve allowed to govern my existence and they always serve me, brilliantly:

1. Life Happens…Life Does Not Happen TO me
2. My Experiences are Purposeful and Intended to Prepare Me
3. The Key to My Growth is to Make My NEXT Decision…BETTER than my LAST

Every life is governed by philosophies…a set of ideas that you allow to govern your existence. If you’re finding yourself agitated or angst, then look at what you’ve accepted as “truth” for that thing, and then tweak your perspective.

It doesn’t matter the circumstance…a lover who is opting out, a child who goes against your wishes, a natural disaster or an unexpected death.

In order to NOT take anything personally, you’ve got to ground your mind and emotions to know that when things happen, all things, that they are not happening to you.

You’ve got to embrace every experience as a teacher of life, always, doing your part to be refined by each and every one, otherwise, by default you will be scarred by them.

You’ve got to know that all learning is gradual and the only way to learn is through experiences.

What matters, everytime, is that you evaluate where you are, decide what you want and determine to make decisions that will move you closer to your desires; remain forwardly focused in thoughts and actions.

We’re Growin’ Up Y’all…because Grown IS Sexy!
NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST!

Lovingly,
Zara
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The Serenity Challenge: How NOT to take anything personally – Day 1

HOORAY to you for taking The Serenity Challenge!

SerenitySerenity: the state or quality of being serene, calm, or tranquil. The complete opposite of “agitation.”

Now that we’re clear about the definition, let’s start with a point of reference that we’ve all heard…The Serenity Prayer.

Grant me the serenity to accept the things that I can not change.
The courage to change the things that I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Few points:
1. Qualities are developed, not innate, so in this case “agitation” is your default state.
2. The serenity to accept the things you can not change will be based on what you do to develop serene, calm, tranquil qualities.
3. Courage will be made available as you develop serenity.
4. Wisdom doesn’t fall from thin air, it is created from a serene mind and what you learn from the courageous actions you take.

Here’s the ultimate lesson…Serenity is a Choice.

We’re Growin’ Up Y’all…because Grown IS Sexy!
NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST!

Lovingly,
Zara
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