Have You Been A Doormat? Here’s How You Courage Up

I’ve been known to call people “punks” because they won’t stand up for themselves. Punks are like screaming doormats. When you lay down and let others walk on you it’s supposed to hurt!

In the Grown Zone, before anything, we’re about self love.  People who love themselves don’t allow others to treat them with disrespect. You teach people how to treat you. Before you demonstrate love for anybody demonstrate it for yourself. That’s one way to always know that you will not be disrespected more than once.

When others try to Bogart you in any way or you give into pressures from others more than once on the same issue, don’t blame them! The first time you get a pass because you didn’t see it coming. But after that you have to Courage UP in order to stop it!Doormat sign

Find your voice – your truth; that authentic sweet spot:

  • What makes you, you? Know your traits: good bad & ugly like you know your name. Start listing them – refining the good ones, safeguarding the bad and doing your damnedest to control the ugly.
  • Embrace that you’re worthy of respect! When you believe that you are you’ll prove it by protecting your mind, body and spirit with better decision-making.
  • Be willing to teach others how to treat you; what’s acceptable and what is not.

Get off the ground and commit to growth; that’s where peace lives!

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About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

2 Responses to Have You Been A Doormat? Here’s How You Courage Up

  1. I absolutely agree! Its important to love yourself first so you can teach others how to love you. I often tell my interns, you must set your personal boundaries FIRST! I cant tell them how to love and respect themselves as that is each individuals choice. I give them the criteria to make the decision, the energy to assert themselves and life experience examples to learn the art of walking away.

    Often people will “bank” on your personal need, your fear of embarrassment, and/or your kindness. We must be reminded that the art of being a lady or a respectable adult is NOT by allowing another to dictate our personal terms. I am guilt of always wanting people to be happy, however, my lesson learned has taught me to FIRST protect my happiness while assisting others.

    I am grateful to have learned (and continue to learn) how to hear my voice and design it in a way that articulates who I am and where I am going.

    Continued thanks for sharing your voice, your experiences and your love!

    All the best,

  2. Zara Green says:

    That’s a lot of good stuff, Ms. Allison! Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom with your interns and with us!

    Much Love! ❤

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