Embrace Time Alone Because Returning To Your Ex Is Like A Dog Returning To Its Vomit

Take My Broken HeartShe/He is your EX for a reason! I’m not a bible-thumper but for these reasons this passage of scripture is so apropo, “As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly“:

  • The act of the dog eating its own vomit is potentially poisonous
  • Foolish acts/behaviors are often out of fear not intentional folly

And if they left you, you’ve got to question why you’d allow them back. “I love him/her” is NOT a sufficient answer. People go back to what they knew, even when it wasn’t good because they don’t know how to be alone and fear it. Time alone is purposeful. If you’re allowing them back then you’ve likely not used the time alone properly.

Time alone is to review the last relationship for patterns in your selections and then to understand WHY you chose them to begin with. Not just what you liked about them, but also what voids in you they filled? When you can answer that you’ve identified YOUR deficits. And when you are aware and FIX THAT IN YOU, you can make your Next Decision Better.

That process won’t usually lead you BACKWARDS!

For your information: The scripture leading into Proverbs 26 says, “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”

And then the verses in Proverbs 26 leading up to the 11th & 12th verses are all about foolish behaviors (“As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly.  Seest thou a man wise in his own conceit? there is more hope of a fool than of him”).

NEXT it's time to move forwardDon’t be a fool! Be wise. Personal growth should never stop! Learn from every relationship. Take time between each one to learn more about you so that you can get better as an individual. Otherwise you run the risk of attracting and choosing the same kind of person, thus the same kinds of experiences and instead of getting better (with your choices and experiences), by default you’ll grow bitter.

You deserve better than that but you won’t get what you deserve necessarily, you’ll get what you choose and accept!

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About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

2 Responses to Embrace Time Alone Because Returning To Your Ex Is Like A Dog Returning To Its Vomit

  1. Musings of Kema says:

    I’m sure many can relate. My mother said pretty much the same thing. “Going back to an ex is like stepping back into dog poo. It smells worse the 2nd time around.” Her language was a tad more colorful but the message is the same.

  2. Zara Green says:

    Haha…I like your Mom’s analogy Ms. Kema! Who wants to step in dog poo? 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

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