Get Better At Severing Ties: Amicable Breakups

I wish people understood the power in severing ties when they’re no longer aligned with the people in their lives.  People-possession is dangerous. There are a gazillion people on the planet and there’s nobody that you can’t live without.

Having ended many relationships (romantic, business, friends, and YES relatives) upon realizing that continuing as we were was not healthy for me,  I’ve been better off every time!

Breakups don’t have to be hostile and you should develop the skills to move on. In fact, you should approach every relationship the same and while in them keep this at the forefront of your mind: reason-season-lifetime

Reason. Season. Lifetime.

As a grown woman, I’ve never returned to a romantic relationship (they ended for good reasons and I don’t allow myself to forget why they ended). I’ve rarely done business again with business partners after a deal has gone south (with the exception that it was to no fault of either party) . I don’t revisit friendships that end because I’m okay when we grow in different directions and there are a gazillion other friendships to make that will bring me a gazillion other experiences (although I do still have a handful of childhood friends whom I cherish). And although I always acknowledge relatives, I am very clear that all relatives are not family!

Most relationships you have will be for a reason.

Fewer for a season.

And less than you ever imagined, for a lifetime.

When you realize that the reason you’re alive is to become more of yourself everyday then your view of life’s experiences will change.

You’ll begin to accept what is, embrace whatever life throws and know that every challenge is purposeful and you’re built to endure it but be sure that the opposite is true too: if you don’t realize that the reason you’re alive is to become more of yourself everyday, you’ll try hold onto yesterday and your view of life’s experiences will not change; you will not accept what is, rather continue to resist; you won’t embrace whatever life throws, you’ll cry woe is me; you won’t ever know that every challenge is purposeful, nor will you ever build resilience to endure challenges, instead you’ll cave.

You’re not here to be defined by the experiences you choose to have. You’re here to be refined by how you handle the experiences life chooses to give you; big difference.

Life is an evolution. Change is Inevitable. Decide to change with things that change around you and to make changes in your life when things no longer serve you. Make your Next Decision Better.

That’s living in the Grown Zone! Here we GROW…Grown IS Sexy! 😉

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About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

3 Responses to Get Better At Severing Ties: Amicable Breakups

  1. Ty Knighten says:

    Very well said! I loved this post and you it the nail on the head! http://thesexysinglemommy.com

  2. Zara Green says:

    Thank you Ms. Ty!

  3. Pingback: Possession Consciousness is Dangerous With Things And People | Grown Zone™

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