If It’s Real It’s Worth Waiting For

Do you know a drug addict – someone hooked on cocaine, meth, heroin? If you’ve known anybody addicted to any of these mind altering drugs then you know that the longer they’re addicted the more brash they get about getting it. From the first hit, all they know is that nothing has ever made them feel like that before and they look forward to the next hit. After a few hits, they begin to get single focused and soon nothing else matters. They want to live in that state of euphoria.

A Gift to Yourself

You may not have ever had a hit of cocaine, meth, or heroin, but if you’ve ever been in love you know that state of euphoria. Your first love interest took you somewhere you’d never been before and you liked it, a lot! For most, you long for it. For others, you want it bad but the pain of having loved and lost hurt so much you’re afraid to be that vulnerable again.

Many people make lifetime decisions in those moments of euphoria because they feel good, but it is not wise to be governed by them.

Intentional Personal Development

Just as you learn other skills, you’ve got to learn how and why you love. What kind of lover are you and what kind do you attract? Is that the kind you want, really? You’ve got to learn to strike balances in what you give and what you get, and it is your responsibility to do so. You deserve love, and you must be responsible for how you acquire it.

The cocaine, meth, and heroin addict is chasing a feeling that cannot be sustained. In the same way, those who fall in love are chasing a fantasy that cannot be sustained. Romantic love is not sustainable and until you’ve done the work of effectively understanding your individual lives and vigilantly co-mingling them your love is not real. It’s a fantasy that has not been tried so it can’t be true.

Sure, you can meet somebody and just on chemistry fall in love, and sex will intensify the attraction. But here’s the inevitable problem with that: that state of euphoria blinds you from seeing incompatibility and by the time you recognize it, if at all (since the relationship was built on emotions), it’s hard to then, objectively judge who’s before you; to see how they actually align with the desires you have for a relationship.

Know What You Want

Unless you know what you want in a relationship, how you want to be treated and what characteristics a suitor has to have in order to be considered compatible, you’ve not done your due diligence and can easily be blinded by chemistry and really confused after sex.

Bottom Line: If s/he’s “all that”, they’ll be that and then some after you’ve done your due-diligence. There are no short-cuts. Stop trying to rush love. True love unfolds, so let it percolate. Time is your friend.

Here we grow…Grown IS Sexy! 😉 Next Decision Better!

Share your knowledge…what was his (pseudo) name and what have you learned? your story could help shorten the learning curve of another, so testify! 🙂

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All the best,
Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

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About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

2 Responses to If It’s Real It’s Worth Waiting For

  1. Deborah Ann Hill says:

    I’mma share it right (Deborah Ann Hill) !!

  2. Zara Green says:

    WHAT Deborah Ann Hill?!?!? I don’t get it!! But if you’re saying you’re gonna share the post, thank you! xoxo 🙂

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