Sexually Uninhibited Or Just Loose

“SuperHead”, Really?!

I heard a young woman recently say that she lost her virginity before she had her first kiss.  That is just mind-boggling to me.  She went on to say that she’d had multiple sexual partners in an attempt to improve her sexual skills.

Now if prostitution is a career path and she’s living in Nevada where it’s perfectly legal, and it’s the family business, I totally understand that, otherwise, somebody failed her miserably and/or she’s going down a path that may be financially profitable but at what cost?

Every Tom, Dick and Harry ain’t supposed to know how you moan, Baby; that list ought to be very short. Your reputation depends on it.”  –Sam Green, Sr. aka My Daddy

By now, most of you know that I grew up in my Daddy’s barber shop and beauty salon and that he did not censor any conversations for my sake. In fact, he knew that allowing me to get the uncensored versions of how differently men and women thought about and used sex would be to my immediate and ultimate benefit.

This post is not to condemn any person because all any of us can do is that which we know.  But as with every PooNannie Post, it is to spark conversation about behaviors because to be sexually uninhibited is a good thing when in healthy context, but to be “loose” is just irresponsible.

Sexual Guidance is Good Parenting

Our society is moving so fast and parents are so busy running the rat race while sexuality expands, evolves and/or unveils that we are all still trying to figure out where we are sexually, and too many parents, therefore provide little, if any, guidance for our children.  And when left to their own devices, they make it up as they go and their experiences become their truth.  And being the humans we are, when we reinforce our” truth(s)” through conditioning, how we are conditioned becomes our reality.

Let’s face it, sex has never been an easy subject for most adults, even today in our very actively sexual society, parents are still not talking with their children about what it means to be sexually responsible. Mostly, because they themselves have not been, or worse, still are not.

PooNannie: the delicacy between a woman’s legs

(according to the Urban Dictionary)

Delicacy or Stankin’ Tuna?

No, this is not just about loose girls and loose women, we all know that boys and men are as sexually irresponsible, but they can’t do it without you women (you know the exceptions, but I’m not going there in this post)!

Smarter Than Your Private Parts

WOMAN: You are the gatekeepers and you have to get smarter about how you’re using that tool between your legs. Too many of you, especially you “I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T women”, are just doling it out freely, uninterrupted and uninhibited – proving that intellect does not equal smart.

She’s educated! A professional – handling her business and climbing the success ladder all week long, but when dealing with men she trades in her brilliant brain for a box of rocks!

A smart woman wouldn’t dilute the overall value of a delicacy by turning hers into a stankin’ tuna!

“Reputations can be improved, but never removed. You can recover from being a ‘bitch’, but some labels are irreparable…you don’t ever want to be known as the neighborhood ho”.  –Sam Green, Sr. aka My Daddy

The PooNannie is a delicacy. Treat H.E.R. as such – with Honor, Esteem and Respect.

When you do here’s what you’ll find: you’ll attract men who will treat you the same way – with Honor, Esteem and Respect…and you will have deserved it. We tend to get what we accept, not what we deserve. 😉

Enter the Grown Zone…Grown IS Sexy! 😉

If you had any kind of reaction to this post please tell me about it in the comment section below.

And, please share it with your Social Media friends.

All the best,
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony


About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

8 Responses to Sexually Uninhibited Or Just Loose

  1. Another FABULOUS post Zara! Totally agree with you. Women ARE the gatekeepers…hence we run the world!

    I think it’s about low self-esteem and the lack of male role-models when younger. Women keep trying to GET ‘male’ love that should have been provided by their fathers, so they try and find it everywhere else and from everyone else that’s a ‘male’!!

    Unfortunately we haven’t realized that sex don’t equal love until it’s too late for us, and after years of ‘sexing’ we still feel love-less.


  2. Zara Green says:

    @Sandra – thanks for bringing the tenderness. 🙂 While I can be nurturing, sometimes I think it’s necessary to just Go There to get their attention and then we can start to talk about the underlying issues and you pose very valid points.

    I’m hoping that those who have been down the paths and have “learned” can shed some understanding to help others learn even quicker, and with lesser damage.

    Thanks for weighing in, Sandra! (hugs) 😉

  3. warren fisher says:

    it is just painful to hear this stuff …….. and, sadly some of these women will look at you like “you are the sad one.” over the last twenty or so years, our music has not provided the message that “i am special”

    moreover, the phrase bitches and whores have become almost an anthem for your black women. the videos showing our young women shaking their asses for drug dealers and thugs have not been great positive images either.

    if in fact, a village raises our children, i suppose it’s all of our fault …… ! speechless in atlanta !

  4. Zara Green says:

    @Warren – Of course, you know that I always appreciate a man’s perspective and you always “bring it”. 🙂

    I believe that women need to hear from men who don’t fit the stereotypes and who don’t want a woman who fits, stereotypes. 🙂 Thank you, Warren!

  5. I love this post. I’m going to show it to my 15 y/o daughter to reinforce what I am teaching her. We’ve got to make a change somewhere. I’m starting with mine and still working on me. Thanks, Z! Love ya!

  6. Zara Green says:

    @Cynthia – It’s not too early to show it to her. I’m having a discussion about it right now on my FB page and the bottom line is that, it doesn’t matter WHAT guys are doing, neither what “all the other girls” are doing SHE has the responsibility of protecting her own gate. 🙂 Glad to help, Cynt – and Love ya Back! ❤

  7. folks wanna blame society – reality tv and rap music – but when it’s all said and done, the burden lies with us only – the parents. i mean clearly, using you and your father as an example, one can see how beneficial it is to have REAL, uncensored dialogue with your kids. as a result, The Girl can spot a boy who “only wants her snacks” a mile away! thank you for redefining what GROWN is.

  8. Zara Green says:

    @Donna – ya know I’m grinning at “thank you for redefining what GROWN is.” I’m loving this process, how it’s reshaping what people think and where the whole message is taking me.

    I know you’re a straight shooter with your children, and it does make all the difference! That’s “keepin’ it real” with them, and that’s parenting, in my opinion. Thanks for chiming in Donna.

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