Beyond the Pain is Where You’ll Find Joy

Are you Scarred or Refined by Life’s Challenges?

Life Reflections. Be Ye Transformed.

When I look at my life’s hardest emotional moments they were also the most transforming times. It wasn’t the decisions that led me to circumstances that had the most gratifying impacts, it was the decisions to move beyond them. The most emotionally challenging times were also the most emotionally developing times. Here’s a snapshot of my transformational reflection.

Be Ye Transformed…

Life beyond moving from the comforts of home, NOLA with family to another city, only knowing one person more than 20 years ago as a young woman in search of  “more” for myself.

Life beyond, not the marriage, but the divorce was the most transforming (marrying is easy, so is staying in a marriage rather than mustering the courage to leave).

Life beyond health challenges that threatened psychological balance and quality of life.

Life beyond, leaving organized religion after 30 years and graduating from ministerial school in a mega church where I’d served for over a decade. Yep, I’m a church boycotting Minister.

Life beyond, divorcing again and moving cross-country away from everything and everybody I knew to intentionally shed everything I thought I knew in order to view life with no preconceived notions.

Life beyond stigmas and labels others wanted to define me as, that I refused to be limited by.

Life beyond, Hurricane Katrina because it happened, it didn’t happen TO me. Not just for losing all my stuff, but all the more challenging as director of public relations for the city of New Orleans with an inside view watching a wreck about to happen but with no authority to stop it.

Life beyond, businesses that didn’t turn profits. (Notice that I didn’t call them failures.)

Life beyond, accepting the betrayal of those who were supposed to love and support me.

Life beyond…

Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind; what you THINK you know, how you THOUGHT things would be and be ever willing to grow when it’s uncomfortable, trusting that Source ‘got’ you – that’s faith in action! Trusting that Source is smarter than you are; that if it is, it’s supposed to be.

Today, I have a low tolerance for misery. It’s a decision. You could make it too. Join me. Life beyond pain and fear is where the real joy of living is, but you’ll only know that if you’ll Courage UP. Dare to embrace the adventurous journey just waiting to breath life back into you.

When I reflect over my life on the things that’s brought me the most joy they were preceded by things that brought me the most pain and/or a really scary situation.

Life begins when you’ll dare move, beyond. Grow with me…Grown IS Sexy! 😉

Feel free to leave a comment on some of your “Life Beyond” and transforming experiences. Go ahead, I’m listening! Help others to move beyond the pain. ;-)

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All the best,
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony


About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

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