Human Needs Made Simple – Lesson 1: Sex Is About Release, Not Contact

On 01/01/10 I made this post on the Grown IS Sexy! fan page, Facebook:

“It’s a new year, but you don’t feel any different because nothing’s really changed in your life even though you may have made resolutions and want to do things differently. There’s only 1 commitment that will bring sustainable change, the way it’s supposed to come – gradually, through conditioning: NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST ;-)”

*While I don’t buy into traditional psychology practices (yes, I have a psychology degree – it’s just like me to go against the grain), I do accept Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Peep it out in the pyramid graph below, and don’t get stuck on what you don’t understand, instead get “L.E.G. UP” focused.

Right now you should be in learning mode. Look at the 1st/lowest level of human needs, the bottom (yellow) – foundational level, Physiology…I’ll explain all of ‘em. I’ve got a knack for Making Psychology Simple :-), so come on…

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs

We’ll hit ‘em all, eventually but for now let’s look at every person’s PHYSIOLOGICAL NEEDS:

·        AIR/FOOD/WATER: Without them, you will die.

·        SLEEP: Inactivity of mind and body for a period of time, a rejuvenation of your whole system.

·        SEX: It’s about release, not necessarily through human contact.

·        HOMEOSTASIS: It’s about peace of mind.

·        EXCRETION: Discharging waste; sweat, pee, poo…get it?

These are foundational basic human needs.

None of these need expounding, but there’s one I feel the need to highlight because of the varied reasons people have sex: using it as currency, filling voids of loneliness, baiting for coercion…the list is exhausting.

Now that you’ve got the foundational/physiological basics, skim through the rest of the pyramid with the physiological basics in mind and notice how they interconnect for you.  These are going to be different for every person.

Why? Because every person has their own way of acting and reacting to life’s circumstances. You’ve heard the nature vs. environment argument, haven’t you?

Whether you have or not, here’s what I propose for the sake of YOUR OWN “homeostasis”: listen to this FREE 14min entertaining audio, “What is Your Priority?” that simply and effectively distinguish what’s natural for every individual, and then you can start to understand how you’re conditioned through your environment to believe, and do the things you currently believe and do.

You’ve got to know where you are and how you got there in order to prepare for beneficial, sustainable changes in your life.

What I’m providing you with are the tools to intelligently, and individually build the courage that will enable you to, make your NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST 😉

*I do believe that you have to face issues head-on in order to work through them, so I believe in counseling…Go Talk to Somebody if you’re stuck on an experience or challenge in your life. I do NOT believe in practices that justify where you and provide means that encourage you to stay there and/or not give you the mental and emotional tools to grow beyond experiences/challenges.

Doing IT Better with ZARA! NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST !

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About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

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