All Men Cheat!

Oh Zara, all men cheat; every man is a dog.”

Yes, I’ve heard it a gazillion times from men, justifying and women, validating.

The one thing you’ll get used to hearing from me is that “I will validate every thought and feeling you have, but will never, ever justify them.” It’s where you are but not where you ought to stay. It’s impossible to remain as you are if you’ll continually and consistently keep a L.E.G. UP: LEARN ~ EMBRACE ~ GROW UP!

The next time you hear or yourself say “All men cheat or every man is a dog”, I’m hoping you’ll also hear my voice screamin’….GROW UP!!!! There are no absolutes with categorizing people, only choices.

I know a lot of men who take enormous pride in NOT being a ho (Standard English Translation: whore)!

All men do not cheat. Every man is not penis-led. Every man does not value a piece of PooNannie more than mutual intimacy built on respect.  There are as many “good” men as there are “women” – who equate respect for others with respect for self.

There are people who embrace fidelity as a lifestyle, not an option. And just as we know that women cheat too, there are men committed to fidelity.

For women who believe that all men cheat, you need to understand that you are a magnet. The men you’ve attracted is no accident. They are responding to your vibration. If you don’t want a cheater, you’ve got to first be committed to fidelity yourself, and then you can expect to attract a man whose lifestyle mirrors yours.

Be encouraged. We all start out in different places, with different circumstances, and those responsible for us have different ideologies which begins formulating what we believe and shapes the perspectives we have of our world. There’s nothing innate about your ideology, you picked it up along the way.

It’s why I declare often that it’s just as important to UNlearn something everyday as it is to learn something everyday.

It’s not the massive changes that change you; it’s the gradual, incremental, continual decisions you make that make massive changes IN you. It’s why the Grown IS Sexy mantra is: “NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST”; it’s always within reach and never a set up for disappointment.

So, if you’re a “cheater” you may be an adult (male or female), but you’re not grown. Grown folks know they’re fallible so they’re honest, don’t make excuses, own what is, and they’re looking for ways to do better – all the time.

We’re Growin’ UP Y’all…Grown IS Sexy! 😉

Feel free to share your perspective on cheaters!  Go ahead, I’m listening!  ;-)

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All the best,
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

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About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

4 Responses to All Men Cheat!

  1. Diamond Z,

    I love this blog because it’s true.

    Krishnamurti said, “One’s mind must be free from the conclusion or knowledge that you have had previously. And if you have such knowledge or conclusion, opinion, one is not capable of looking, observing freely. You’re not looking at the whole perception.” I’m freeing my mind from the old cuz I am GROWIN’ up in the nu nu w/You. Lol


  2. Reginald says:

    Thank you Zara (Great Sage)and Amen!!!

  3. Zara Green says:


    @The DIAMOND Coach…did you say, “I’m freeing my mind from the old cuz I am GROWIN’ up in the nu nu w/You.”? LOL…in the nu nu?!?! HILARIOUS!!

    @Reg…Thanks for stopping by and co-signing 🙂

  4. Z, I’s just a rhyming & having fun. ;-D

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