Shall I Stay or Shall I Go? How to Know When a Relationship has Run its Course

We’ve all been at that FORK IN THE ROAD in a relationship; do I stay or do I go?



End of the Road?With Valentine’s Day around the corner intended to celebrate lasting love – a realist, more than anything, I wanted to see what’s on your minds because most of us know that while the love might continue, the roads of relationships often dead end.


On several networking sites I asked this 2-fold question: Is it to one’s advantage or disadvantage to believe that a relationship can “RUN ITS COURSE”? How do you know WHEN IT HAS?


Interestingly, most could not answer concisely. Here’s a sample of replies:


  • “Sometimes you never know what the other person is thinking. Usually, you both know it’s “run its course”. Most romantic relationships do end but is it really ever OVER?”
  • “…It depends on maturity level and lots of other things. Most things can be worked out but sometimes it is just impossible. There is a lot to be said for negotiation.”
  • “If you are clear on the definition of “ITS COURSE” it is easier to determine if it has or has not completed its goal…emotions fade, bUT Original INTENDED DESTINATION rarely does.”
  • “I don’t even comprehend the statement, Zara. Seriously. What does that REALLY mean?”


But there were those who had very succinct responses to when they believe a relationship has run its course:

  • “If you suspect its run its course, it already has.”
  • “Most run their course. and it’s instinctive when you know it’s over, just like when you’re done with a TV show”
  • “As soon as you THINK a relationship has run its course, it has…”

And then there was the follow up question: Most of you believe that THEY DO, but what are some indications that a RELATIONSHIP HAS RUN ITS COURSE?



Here are a few replies:


  • “When you don’t care enough about the result of an argument/discussion to have the argument/discussion.”
  • “I see women who stay and know good and well they need to go, and vice versa. It’s depressing Zara.”


Here are the kinds of responses I got the most:

  • Great Question
  • Awesome Discussion
  • The question is surely the MILLION DOLLAR one! So good on you for even posing it to get us thinking.

Life is too short to keep trying to extend a road leading to nowhere, and so the discussion continues.  Comment to this post and stay tuned for details of this topic on an upcoming Grown Is Sexy – Radio Show (link below).


We’re Growing UP y’all, because life is meant to be enjoyed!



NEXT Decision…BETTER than your LAST 😉


About Zara Green
Hi, I'm Zara Green, A "Do Better" Fanatic and Your Advocate...I'm glad you're here! As a personal growth Author and Speaker, who's Individuality & Resilience-Focused, I spark conversations that expand thinking, encourage effective & productive responses and produce better individual decision-making and better interpersonal communications in relationships. Growing Up with Zara because life is meant to be enjoyed ;-)

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