Perverted Pulpit PooNannie Pushing Pimps

Effin’ Pulpit PooNannie Pushing Phoolery is what this is! This “man of the cloth” may as well get on the street and get him some whores!

The headline reads:  “Amen to that! Pastor puts stripper’s pole next to pulpit and urges congregation to have sex seven days a week”

Halfway through, I had to take a breather. It’s this kind of Pulpit PooNannie Pushing Phoolery that keeps women secondary in relationships…not AS important because this FOOL whom others are validating (by showing up) as a “man of the cloth” is equating intimacy and sex and to help make his point, he brings a pink stripper’s pole and other salacious props to the pulpit. He further insults the female intelligence (well, the thinking ones) by suggesting that a man satisfies our “cravings - (with) wine, rose petals and flowers” (you better raise the bar…if that’s all he had to do to hit it, you do need some critical thinking skills). What he’s showing is what’s worked for him, and he’s clearly not met a grown woman, or lack the capacity to recognize her.

Pastor's Pulpit Pink Pole PooNannie Phoolery!

Anybody decent has a natural desire to please, at least those closest to them. For a woman, her God and her man top that list. And if Christianity is her chosen philosophy to be governed by, the difference is sometimes blurred as she seeks to be “obedient” to him and his needs!

7-days of sex is all about the man’s satisfaction because if it were about hers, they wouldn’t need “the good pastor” to instruct them to have more – they already would be. The best relationships include sex, but are not BASED on sex and certainly not the quantity of sex. Intimacy and intercourse are not synonymous! This kind of religious blackmail gets my goat!

Ladies: NEXT Decision BETTER™ because it’s women who help to validate a penis-led mentality. If you’re worth more than a screw, stop permitting them to make that your primary value. A man who loves you for you will bend over backwards to make love to your heart and mind to the point that you’re so satisfied that you’ll never withhold sex from him and your relationship will be so multidimensional that sex is not at the forefront of his mind. Yeah,  that’s what I said…there are men who will want to do more with and for you than bend you over backwards when you, RAISE THE BAR! 

Shock value has its place, but the degradation/objectifying of women from the pulpit under the guise of holiness is foul…and you’re vile to do it Mike Scruggs (you won’t get no title out of me)! You’re still a penis-led boy. Grown men know that 7 days of sex won’t heal a marriage and wouldn’t dare compare who’s gettin’ more.

Grow up…Grown IS Sexy!™

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Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

YOUR PooNannie – YOUR Responsibililty!

I will NOT give women a pass on this – PooNannie Phoolery is on you! “Why not Penis Phoolery, Zara”, they say, “men are just as guilty! What happened to equal responsibility?” Because the responsibility is NOT equal!

A woman has to yield to penis entry so she holds more responsibility. It’s HER PooNannie he’s after and she’s got to become more saavy about why he wants it, get clear about why she yields, get more discerning about whom she distributes it to and how she dispenses all sexual activities.

No, it ain’t equal!

Raise the Bar for Entry!

I’m hard on women about PooNannie Phoolery because, with rare exceptions of tragedy, its ripple effects can’t happen without your permission: diseases can’t spread, men can’t become “dogs” (they can come hunting, but you don’t have to become their prey), babies can’t be produced – none of it can happen without YOU yielding to the process. When you protect your PooNannie, you protect your hearts – your mental, emotional and physical health; you protect your life!

I will continue to declare that the responsibility has to lay heavier on the woman because she has to yield to it. And she’s the one left to clean up the massive messes it leaves.

So with NO APOLOGY Woman, I implore you to Raise the Damn Bar!

Here we grow…Grown IS Sexy!

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Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

PooNannie Power: Misused and Abused

There’s power in the PooNannie – the most misused power there is; triggering numerous societal issues from infidelities and Baby-Momma dramas to tumultuous psychological life-time ripple effects.

I have a page on Facebook called “Grown IS Sexy!” that I post to daily. On Fridays I tend to share what I call PooNannie Posts, which includes PooNannie Power, PooNannie Responsibility and PooNannie Phoolery.

The moment of decision: Fun? Or Phoolery?

I do this on Fridays because it’s on the weekend when perfectly intelligent women trade their brains for a box of rocks and get laid–only they’ve convinced themselves that it’s on their terms, that they are in charge, so it’s okay. Friday is why folks live for the weekend, because they just got paid and they have a few dollars to pay for some fun. Friday is when penis-led males go out in search of somebody’s vulnerable daughter to exploit and objectify.

PooNannie Phoolery is happening all around us, but sexual recklessness is never without consequence and rarely does it only affect the people phuckin’.

So, yeah it’s Friday and you should enjoy the weekend, but in the words of Sam Green, Sr. (aka My Daddy), “A man will tell you anything if he thinks you’ll let him hit it, and any hole will do as long as it’s wet and warm.”

Sure a man is AS responsible for PooNannie Phoolery as you are, but woman, YOU determine whether or not he hits it, and the ripple effects (babies, diseases, financial obligations, lives affected, emotional damages), fall on you. He’s then off to get somebody else’s daughter to fall for his okey-doke.

Enjoy the weekend, but make smart decisions. There’s a whole lot more to do, other than screw.

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Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

It Is Not Just Plagiarism It’s My Life

Absolute Disbelief
This TRICK set up a Facebook page that mirrored mine. No really, she copied and pasted my posts as her original material, stole my blog posts and turned them into “notes” tagging friends and celebrities, and even hinted that soon there will be a book, “Pocketbook Principles” from my “PooNannie Principles,” lessons from my Daddy.

Here are a couple of examples how she modified my posts:
On this one she removed “-Sam Green, Sr. aka My Daddy” entirely. No credit to him, at all for his quotes.

This was a post with comments on the Grown IS Sexy! page that she turned into a note, tagging people.

She’s copied some of my blogs too, including my Divorce Is Not An Option blog and creating a note.

As I scrolled her page, my “NEXT Decision BETTER” became her “Next and Better Decision”. My Daddy’s quotes, “Sam Green, Sr.” became just “S G, Sr.” and my “Lessons from the Barbershop” became her “Lessons from the Shop”. My “We’re Growin’ UP” became her “We’re Goin’ Up” and my “Grown IS Sexy” became her “Grown and Sassy”. She made these changes but EVERYTHING ELSE remained as I originally posted them.

Here are some examples of how she’s done that:

• This is probably the most egregious offense because it’s the longest. And while it’s all mine, she’s meshed them all together. Certainly not as cohesively as my soon to be published book.
• This is a day’s worth of related posts on “Opportunities Are Created” that she’s copied and pasted as a note…she did that a lot!
• This day was several related posts too on My Daddy’s Principles regarding the PooNannie, again copied and pasted into a note.
• Here’s MY blog post, It’s YOUR Life and here’s how she’s owing it – she calls it, Parenting: It’s Not My Fault.

Here are some single posts dating back to May 2010 that she copied and pasted:

• The Past Is Gone
• It’s Your Life
• Don’t Be Rude – this one says “Grown IS Sexy” but does not credit me.
• Don’t Be Bamboozled! – I signed “Grown IS Sexy”…she switched it out for “Sassy”

There are SO MANY of my single posts that she turned to notes.

I created the Grown IS Sexy! “fan” page on Facebook and everyday for the past 2 years I post and engage discussions on self development for self leadership integrating many terms I’ve created from seminars and workshops over the years that have taken on a life of their own. And I freely share my experiences and life lessons.

Flattered My Ass, I Am PISSED!

Me and Daddy

Some of you know the relationship that I have with my father.  At 44, I am still Daddy’s little girl.  Along with many other things, my father taught me everything I needed to know about sex much of which I learned growing up in his barbershop.  I hold those lessons very near and dear.  So, for this TRICK to claim my experiences as her own, even my Daddy as hers, PISSES me off!

I am not flattered that she wants to be me or that she is claiming my work.  My daily interaction with those on my fan page is, kind of, my ministry.  I love sharing digestible nuggets that help others “Courage UP” and make better decisions. And we have some powerful discussions on the Grown IS Sexy! page and now, frankly, I feel violated.
She has gone as far as extracting from the comment sections where I’ve clarified a post all the more or responded to people’s personal experiences to extract each of my comments and create “notes” on her Facebook “fan” page, which are the equivalent to a blog – all my words, verbatim.

I have myself on Google Alert (which I highly recommend), so whenever anybody posts, mention or repost my work I get an automatic alert and I periodically Google my terms. I started using “Sam Green-ism” and so I Googled it and found that she had been copying and pasting my work for over a year. I went back to July 2010 and was exhausted so I stopped.

We’re All Born With Talent

You've Got Talent

Well, not exactly! We are all born with natural propensities – a natural lean toward certain abilities.  And it is every individual’s task to identify what those are (the easy part because they show up even if you’re not looking for them) and then to hone those skills which unveil our talents. It is then our job to develop those talents over time.

I’m very passionate about individuality, and so clear about the different traits and experiences that make us all different and valuable that I teach it; I’ve produced two audio books about it, Living in Harmony and Living by Design.  If this thief would spend her time honing her own natural abilities, she’d find the wealth of value within her and would feel absolutely foolish stealing my work.

There Are No Shortcuts
Those of us who have known levels of success know that the path to success is not a straight line and there are no shortcuts!

I was a traveling speaker and trainer, literally in a different city every day teaching professional development – communications, interpersonal, and leadership skills.  I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and since age 17, I’ve been fascinated with temperaments, so in every session I’ve ever taught I teach temperaments; show people their individual value. It was all on the road when I realized that I loved teaching personal growth; seeing people have light bulb moments.

Bottom Line: my path, my experiences, my natural abilities and honed talents make me the expert on the things that I teach, including PooNannie responsibility.

While I am pissed that she would try to claim my work as her own, even hinting at a book of MY “PooNannie Principles” only she’s calling it “Pocketbook Principles” she is not me.

Speaking of no shortcuts…HELL, do you know how long it took me to put “PooNannie” in writing?!?!

I’ve been known for talking about the “PooNannie” in sessions for years, but I was so afraid of being known as “The PooNannie Lady.”  People have been asking for my book, but I had to get comfortable with my ability to tastefully convey the messages AND, frankly, to be known as The PooNannie Lady before I would share them in such public forums.

The book is coming. I’ve been working on it and I’m not rushing it because of this. It’s my path, my experiences – it’s MY LIFE! I’m clear that nobody can tell, nor share my life better than I can. Nobody can steal that!

FYI…I have reported the page to Facebook but haven’t heard from them yet, but get this…just before posting this, another Facebook page surfaced with my posts called: Life After Separation and Divorce. From what I can tell it’s the same TRICK (it’s the nicest thing I can call her right now)!

There are literally more posts on her page that are mine than are not! I scrolled her page in absolute disbelief! She continues to delete my supporters comments but my content remains. You can see the page here.

Here’s to finding the wealth of value within you and developing the best, YOU! We’re Growin’ UP…Grown IS Sexy!

UPDATE (October 21, 2010): Since I posted this blog, I’ve learned who she is and reached out to her. Many of my supporters after hearing about this covered her page, comment after comment, about infringing on my intellectual property. She’s so insistent on continuing that she is diligently removing all of their comments but not my content. Neither has she responded to me.

UPDATE: (October 22, 2010) Like many of you I’ve worked on my brand for years and this just does not sit well with me. As of yet, Facebook still hasn’t responded to my submission but we have self-policed and got her attention. But it doesn’t mean she’s repentant; she’s changed her settings so that we can no longer leave comments and as a result all of  our comments were automatically removed, but my content still remains.

From what I have gathered about her, she has several businesses…a hustler! All I know is that publishing MY CONTENT had better not be one of them. Again, many many thanks to those of you who have rallied with me on this.

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All the best,
Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

Sexually Uninhibited Or Just Loose

"SuperHead", Really?!

I heard a young woman recently say that she lost her virginity before she had her first kiss.  That is just mind-boggling to me.  She went on to say that she’d had multiple sexual partners in an attempt to improve her sexual skills.

Now if prostitution is a career path and she’s living in Nevada where it’s perfectly legal, and it’s the family business, I totally understand that, otherwise, somebody failed her miserably.

“Every Tom, Dick and Harry ain’t supposed to know how you moan, Baby; that list ought to be very short. Your reputation depends on it.”  –Sam Green, Sr. aka My Daddy

By now, most of you know that I grew up in my Daddy’s barber shop and beauty salon and that he did not censor any conversations for my sake. In fact, he knew that allowing me to get the uncensored versions of how differently men and women thought about and used sex would be to my benefit.

This post is not to condemn any person because all any of us can do is that which we know.  But as with every PooNannie Post, it is to spark conversation about behaviors because to be sexually uninhibited is a good thing when in healthy context, but to be “Loose” is just irresponsible.

Sexual Guidance is Good Parenting

Our society is moving so fast and parents are so busy running the rat race while sexuality expands, evolves and/or unveils that we are all still trying to figure out where we are sexually, and too many parents, therefore provide little, if any, guidance for our children.  And when left to their own devices, they make it up as they go and their experiences become their truth.  And being the humans we are, when we reinforce our” truth(s)” through conditioning, how we are conditioned becomes our reality.

Let’s face it, sex has never been an easy subject for most adults, even today in our very actively sexual society, parents are still not talking with their children about what it means to be sexually responsible. Mostly, because they themselves have not been, or worse, still are not.

PooNannie: the delicacy between a woman’s legs

(according to the Urban Dictionary)

Delicacy or Stankin’ Tuna?

No, this is not just about loose girls and loose women, we all know that boys and men are as sexually irresponsible, but they can’t do it without you women (you know the exceptions, but I’m not going there in this post)!

WOMAN: You are the gatekeepers and you have to get smarter about how you’re using that tool between your legs. Too many of you, especially you “I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T Women”, are just doling it out freely, uninterrupted and uninhibited – proving that intellect does not equal smart.

She’s educated! A professional – handling her business and climbing the success ladder all week long, but when dealing with men she trades in her brilliant brain for a box of rocks!

A smart woman wouldn’t dilute the overall value of a delicacy by turning hers into a stankin’ tuna!

“Reputations can be improved, but never removed. You can recover from being a ‘bitch’, but some labels are irreparable…you don’t ever want to be known as the neighborhood ho”.  –Sam Green, Sr. aka My Daddy

The PooNannie is a delicacy. Treat H.E.R. as such – with Honor, Esteem and Respect.

Here’s what you’ll find: when you do, you’ll attract men who will treat you the same way – with Honor, Esteem and Respect…and you will have deserved it. We tend to get what we deserve.

We’re Growin’ UP…Grown IS Sexy!

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Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

Hail to the V

“It’s the cradle of life.

It’s the center of civilization.

Over the ages and throughout the world men have fought for it…

begged for it…

died for it!

One might say, it’s the most powerful thing on earth…

so come on Ladies…show it a little love!

Hail to ‘The V’!”

If you’ve not seen this commercial, I’ve embedded it below for your enjoyment. I’ve certainly been tickled by it.

HAIL TO “The V”…PooNannie Power!

I’m not endorsing the product, but I think the commercial deserves an award!

You ARE Fuquitable: A Constant of Life

IF YOU’VE GOT VIRGIN EARS, DON’T READ THIS!!

IF YOU’RE OFFENDED BY PROFANITY, DO NOT READ THIS!!

IF YOU HAVE TO “PROTECT YOUR EARGATES FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR SPI-RIT” (roll the tongue on “rit” “rrrr” spi-rit – there ya go!), DO. NOT. READ. THIS!!!

You Are Fuquitable!

I’m a bit of a jokester, and so it’s natural for me to seek “prey”. Jokesters NEED people to prank.  While pranks are not always appropriate, what I’m (totally subconsciously) looking for in every situation is somebody who’ll play with me should I need a release. I’m looking for somebody who’s fuquitable, and we are all fuquitable – somehow.

I can’t sit still for very long periods of time…well, I can but I don’t like to, and I’M NOT TAKING YOUR DRUGS SO FORGET ABOUT IT!! (I like me just the way I am, thank you.) So when I have to be still, I NEED something else to do; I need somebody who is fuquitable.

When I find those who are fuquitable (and I always do) they don’t know it yet, but they’ve been enrolled as my fun partners; my outlets; who I will exchange energy with to help me through that, otherwise, unbearable situation. Our exchange is often totally non-verbal, but we have FUN!  I choose them – they can’t choose me; only I know what’s going on. It’s MY AGENDA and only those who don’t have an agenda of their own fall prey. They don’t know that they are fuquitable, but I do.

FUQUITABLE: Spell it out phonetically with me.  Ready…”Fuk-wita-ble, fuc-wit-a-ble, fuck–wit-able”.  Okay, good!  That was the ebonics, pronunciation,   I expect to see this in the Urban Dictionary, real soon! 

 

The Harm in Being Fuquitable

Others might call the “fuquitable”, “easy”.  I (again, subconsciously) seek people who are subject to my “spell”; who have a predisposition for the entertainment (attention) I’ll give. They’re already primed.

 

This example of what makes one fuquitable is harmless, but being fuquitable can be quite harmful.

Determining who IS fuquitable to my spell (or yours) totally depends on each person’s vulnerabilities; spells can only fall on the vulnerable – the “NEEDY. If somebody can determine your vulnerability, then for them, you are fuquitable; prey!

Need Validation? You’ll attract somebody who’ll fuquit you, in that way.

Need Attention? You’ll attract somebody who’ll fuquit you, in that way.

Need Companionship? …you’re fuquitable, in that way…

Need to Feel Desirable? You are sooooooooooo fuquitable…both figuratively and LITERALLY!

If “Fuk-wit-able” were possible as “standard English” it would be “Fuquithable”, thus “Fuck-with-able”. Do you know how you’re “fuck-withable”? What makes you vulnerable to be fucked with?

Although we are all fuquitable, we don’t all have the same vulnerabilities so we can’t all be fucked with in the same ways, and some ways are harmful; they can have damaging mental, physical and emotional ripple effects.

And women get tripped up with emotional needs all the time that make them fuquitable, literally! It’s okay, PooNannie Principles will help you with that.

Choose Personal Growth

I enjoy looking back over my life because I see beauty in development, process and progress. I acknowledge choice as a privilege and therefore committed to my own personal growth and teaching others who recognize the value in growing because here’s the thing: You may not have the same vulnerabilities you once had and the beauty in personal growth is that you’ll likely not be vulnerable to the things you are now, someday.

But today, we are all vulnerable to something, which makes us all, Fuquitable…in one way, or another. The key is to know HOW you’re fuquitable and to equip yourself, continuously over time, to not be fucked with. Got it?   We’re Growin’ UP, Grown IS Sexy!

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Zara
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony

What is Your Worth?

Many would say that a person is worthy because he/she is; just being makes one worthy.

I will dare offer this position…isn’t it the individual who determines his/her own worth?

What is worth?

Irrespective of financial wealth, worth is value, meaning, significance, goodness, importance, usefulness; it’s a quality that renders something desirable, deserving of or merited. This is, solely, YOUR responsibility.  How others treat you does and will depend on what you bring; the difference you make; what distinguishes you from the pack – and LADIES: PLEASE REMOVE POONANNIE PUSHING AND TRICKS FROM THIS EQUATION BECAUSE THE ONLY THING YOU’LL GET IS SCREWED.

Who are you?

While I agree that every person is entitled to “worthiness”, it is the individual who decides, determines and does the mental and emotional work to be worthy. What you’ve done doesn’t determine your worth…who you are, determines your worth – that is what’s consistent and will prevail.

H.E.R.

Parents and others can and should set the course for worthiness, but qualities that command honor, esteem and respect exude from the individual who knows their own worth.  While no person is any better than another, may I propose that a person’s worth is what he/she believes it is? And it’s evidenced by the Honor, Esteem and Respect they get.

Ladies, who desire H.E.R.

Consider how you treat the PooNannie because it is how most men will treat you.  Honor, Esteem, and Respect must begin with you: If you don’t H.E.R., her don’t expect him to H.E.R., you.

Strooooooooong Medicine, I know but it’s good for ya – now swallow it! We’re Growin’ Up! Grown IS Sexy!

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If Men are Dogs, It’s Women’s Fault

My Draughs?!

Check out the “Mature Minute” video below and tell me what you think.

If you are a “Julie”, do you really expect a man to treat your PooNannie in any way other than you do?

Women, men follow your lead. When you learn how to treat H.E.R. with Honor, Esteem and Respect, you’ll attract a man who wants you for more than your PooNannie. Of course, you’ve got to have more to give.

Kick ‘n Scream if you must, but We’re Growin’ UP Y’all…Grown IS Sexy!

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