My Big Chop Became My Clean Shave
May 23, 2011 8 Comments
The first day of spring I got a wild hair up my arse!
That’s the only way to describe what prompted My Big Chop, or in my case, what became My Clean Shave.
To call me impulsive would be, situation-ally accurate, but spontaneous is more fitting. To say that I’m rash could be applicable, but decisive is more like it.
It was Sunday, March 20, 2011, the first day of spring after, what I’ve been told, was the harshest winter in the Northeast. It was also my first winter in the Northeast. I’m such a sun-bunny that I welcomed spring with open arms and after enjoying sunshine and warmth on my deck all day, feeling extra grateful that the snow was done for the season (or so I thought – it returned the very next day) I decided to honor that day with a personal mark of renewal – in a way that only I could make it so as the sun went down I decided I wanted a fresh start – a new me, so I started cutting; chopping about an inch at a time.
When I got down to what was only “new growth” I realized I’d done, The Big Chop.
But I couldn’t seem to stop so I grabbed my beau’s clippers. My Big Chop then became My Clean Shave.
But was that enough…no…I had to grab the close triple blade and then my head felt like lamb’s skin leather and was as smooth as a baby’s bottom.
I’ve always known that I’d cut all of my hair off, if for no other reason to create an adventure for myself; it’s my nature to create experiences. But this time I had an even deeper reason.
“Knowing that we differ is not enough! Understanding HOW we differ is the foundation to self-esteem and respect in any relationship.” ~Zara Green
I’ve been all over the country telling people how to make their NEXT Decision BETTER as an Individuality Advocate, with expertise in temperaments and resilience. My messages are about Living by Design and Living in Harmony: identifying what makes you – you, distinguishing your unique qualities, embracing all of you…establishing a foundation to put YOU, first and to live your best life as harmoniously as possible, with others.
Moving to New York brought me to a realization: I know what qualities distinguish me, I’m clear about my value, and am most comfortable in my own skin – I live my best life, but there was a part of me that I didn’t know, authentically.
I hadn’t felt my natural hair in over 30 years. I’d also never been convicted about that before, but it seemed that my New York audiences were overwhelmingly filled with women who were natural. And I began to feel the need to know me in that way, and even I was shocked.
You see, I’d been happily permed and didn’t have any desire to be anything else. (You can read about my Southern-bred assimilation experiences here.) Although I’ve lived from Atlanta to Los Angeles, I’m a Southern Girl and mostly working as an independent contractor in the corporate world, going “natural” was out of the question in my world. In my world, going natural was synonymous with possibly not working so I never considered it.
Now here’s what happened about 3 days after The Big Chop. Producers for the Biography Channel called me to be the personal development expert in the “Ted Williams: Homeless to Hollywood story” (you can read the blog that made them want me) which meant, my bald head would be on a national (possibly international) stage.
I’ve gotten all kinds of responses to My Clean Shave, mostly supportive, but I did have some family and friends (from the South and still very much so stuck in some of my prior thinking) who have been clear about their displeasure. (Yeah, I know, it’s MY head, but their displeased…betta know what you want and do it, despite them!) Like one childhood friend whose response to my answer to why I cut it, “…got a wild hair up my arse”: Why didn’t you just cut the wild hair?!
Anyway, I don’t know where this journey will take me, but I’m enjoying the Shaved Head for now. Feeling extra grown about it, and Grown ISSexy!
Now tell me…have you done The Big Chop? Would you do The Big Chop? What do you think about My Big Chop?
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All the best,
Speaker, Individuality Advocate
Author of Living by Design and Living in Harmony